(Beginner English Learners: Definitions for This Article Are At The Bottom of This Page. Enjoy!)
Dear English Learner,
Today, we will chat on the topic of ‘peace.’ Peace is a very deep word, but in relationships, to have ‘peace’ means to be in a relationship without anger, loud voices (shouting), rudeness, or hitting. You may be in a peaceful relationship and not know it. If you are good friends with your partner and you barely argue – your relationship is peaceful.
‘Easy-Going’ is a good phrase to learn as it is said often in the United States. It means that someone is easy to spend time with. This person is usually very understanding, forgiving, and doesn’t care if he or she is proven to be ‘right’ in an argument. ‘Easy-going’ people care more about ending arguments in a peaceful way than winning the argument with the other person. ‘Easy-going’ people often have longer lasting relationships because their focus is not on ‘looking smart’ but on ‘staying together.’ What kind of person are you? Are you ‘easy-going’?
Is it possible to lose something but really win? I think it is and I will tell you a story to prove it. Years ago, I was playing a ‘circle-the-word’ game. I am very good at finding words, so often, I would find all the hidden words in less than two minutes. Many of my friends and other players would take ten to fifteen minutes to find the same hidden words. So of course, some players didn’t want to play with me because they knew I would always win. At first, I thought this was funny, but that was until some players started to leave in the middle of the game because it was so difficult to beat me. Playing alone wasn’t fun. I even asked myself, “What is the reason of playing this game if I can’t find anyone to play with me?”
Right before I was about to leave, I met someone new who wanted to play with me. As usual, I won the first few games, and the person seemed happy even while he was losing. I became worried and thought, “If I keep winning like this, this player will leave just like the others.” I don’t know if my thoughts were true, but I started to lose ‘on purpose.’ To lose ‘on purpose’ means to ‘let’ the other person win. For example, I would win three or four games, but allow him to win the fifth game. He never got tired, and we played for a full hour.
In the end, we were both happy, and I had a memorable game. Today, I don’t remember all the games I’ve won with other players, but I do remember the game in my story. Although I didn’t win every game, I will probably remember that player all of my life – I made a friend and learned an important lesson. People who always slay their opponents in one-on-one games tend to be loners. They go home to a lonely room and gloat – they think they are happy – all they do is watch television alone because no one else wants to talk to them – BUT, is that truly happiness?
What Makes You Happy?
Does always being ‘right’ make you happy? Or does holding your partner while you both enjoy popcorn at the movies make you happy? Maybe your partner gets lost all the time and doesn’t listen when you try to give him or her directions. Maybe your partner is always late, even though you have asked him or her to wake up 20 minutes early. In both situations, you are probably correct, and your partner is probably wrong. Yet, if you keep telling your partner about his or her mistakes, you may become difficult to be with. It is very difficult to listen to someone tell you bad things about yourself, even if it is only, ‘once a day.’ Correcting your partner ‘once a day’ is about 30 times in one month. English Learners, that’s not love, but harassment. If you correct your partner too much, your partner may leave you for someone that’s more ‘easy-going.’ Let’s become ‘easy-going’ English Learners!
Beginner English Learners, some English words have more than one meaning for the same word. The meanings of the words below only define the way these words were used in this article.
- Barely (adverb) – something is not done a lot
- Shouting (verb) – to use a loud voice
- Rudeness (noun) – the act of behaving in an uncaring way
- Understanding (noun) – the act of trying to understand someone else’s emotions
- Argue (verb) – to disagree with another person through words
- Argument (noun) – a disagreement between two or more people
- Spend Time – a phrase that means to ‘use time’ doing something
- Forgiving (adjective) – when forgiveness is common for someone to do
- Proven (verb) – to be shown correct
- Prove (verb) – to show that something is correct
- ‘Longer Lasting’ (Long-Lasting) – It is more common to say, ‘long-lasting’ but both phrases are correct. It means that something remains usable, healthy, or stable for a long time.
- To Beat (verb) – to defeat; to play better than the other team
- Memorable (adjective) – an event that is worth remembering
- Slay (verb) – to completely destroy without mercy
- Opponents (noun) – people you are trying to beat in a game
- ‘One-on-One’ – A phrase that means to play against only one person.
- Lonely (adjective) – to feel alone
- Gloat (verb) – to feel excitement because your opponent was defeated
- Alone (adverb) – without anyone but yourself
- Partner (noun) – In this article, this word means, ‘lover.’
- Harassment (noun) – to repeatedly bother someone